Sleep issues: it happens and it’s okay

Well this article helped me see our situation in a new light. I can sigh some relief and know we are not doing anything wrong (by nursing, rocking, or swinging to sleep) even though it’s taking him some time to go and stay asleep. He’s not always going to be a good sleeper, we just have to help him along the way. He’ll get there.

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4 Months- and a call for a sleeping solution!

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I started this post last week and am finally able to finish it…assuming Little Man doesn’t wake up. Where’s my excellent little sleeper? Have you seen him?  Last week he was back to sleeping 6 hours before needing a snack and returning to sleep. I was blaming his shift in sleep schedule to growing pains. But these last couple of days he’s back to not being able to soothe himself back asleep. And we’re having to rock him to sleep at naptime and at night. It’s rough. He’s also waking up several times at night and wanting to be rocked back to sleep then too. It’s rough!

Putting him to sleep can eat up about 3 or more hours in a day. I’m not sure why he’s struggling so much because he isso tired. And we’re against letting him cry it out so that’s not a method we want to try. We need to find a no-tears sleep solution. If anyone has one please share! We are tired over here! And I miss spending time in the evening with my husband. I feel as though we only get to catch up on the weekends because our son’s bed-time routine eats up our evenings.

We are quite torn on whether we should get him to sleep earlier. Right now we start his routine around 8 and he’s not asleep until right before or a wee bit after 9. IF we put him down at 7 it wouldn’t leave much time for my husband to visit with Ollie before he goes to bed. So yeah, we are stumped. We are still hoping he’s suffering from growing pains and will go back to the ace sleeper he use to be. Wishful thinking?

So milestones and firsts…

Leading up to his 4 month birthday, he found his toes. He’s been sucking on them ever since. Cutest thing ever!

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Tummy time has become old hat and he’s killing it. He no longer cries when he’s put on his tummy.

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He is loving his reflection. He loves looking at himself during bath-time and when we sit in front of the closet mirror in his room.

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We went on our first official trail walk. California is FULL of trails and I’ve decided we need to hit most of the ones near us. On this particular day we went to Sawyer Camp Trail.

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We think his hair has finally stopped falling off and is starting to grow back. Yay! (I’m happy to say I think the same for myself. Phew.)

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Other things: he’s chatting a lot more. Making different sounds and squealing at times. He’s also becoming quite the drooling monster.

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Also he’s a hair and earring grabber. Ow!

He’s still loving his jumparoo and all his toys, especially Petey the Pirate (a rattle) and Sophie the Giraffe.

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Overall our son is quite the happy smiley baby. I just hope he can learn to go to sleep soon because he might become a crabby one. Hopefully not. I’m sure this sleeplessness is a stage and will surely end (right? right?!). We just want to help him now rather than let him suffer from tiredness. So yeah, any tips on how to help him self-sooth to sleep would be great!

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Mommy friends needed. Apply within.

Man, the mommy world can be tough. Being a stay-at-home parent can be pretty darn isolating. Like a fool I thought I would instantly make friends once I started going out and about. Well let me tell you, I haven’t. I joined a mommy group and have yet to connect with anyone. It’s so weird. In London I was able to make friends with other expats so I assumed it would kinda be the same way here, except I’d have a kid in common instead of a visa. Nope. To make matters more awkward my self-esteem has taken a hit. Quite a few of the moms look like they stepped out of an athletic magazine. I definitely stick out like a sore chubby thumb. But putting that aside I still have hope I will meet my true mommy friend.

So mamas, how do you meet other like-minded mamas? I’m still holding out that I will connect with someone soon. Hopefully someone who will be staying home as well. From what I gathered a handful of the moms in the group will be going back to work. Great for them, but bad for me if I want to engage in some adult conversations during the day.

We recently joined a Baby and Me music class. It has been so much fun. I chatted with one mom who’s from Peru. She doesn’t know it yet but I totally want to be her friend. I can see us chatting over coffee, in Spanish (haltingly bad Spanish for me). *Sigh* I can dream.

I wish my college friends lived closer. There will be five babies among us by the end of the year and none of us live close to each. Sadness.

As much as I LOVE the weather here (warm sunny days all.the.time.) I miss Austin. It remains the place I felt the most at home since leaving NYC.

Here’s hoping some newfound friends can change that around. I’d love to feel at home and not living in some kind of weird limbo.